Committing yourself to be with another person for the rest of your life is a big step to take. As so often is the case, love binds a marriage together in the beginning, but after 6-months or a year the reality of the situation can start to sink in. For better or worse you’re now stuck with that person for life…and if that worries you then you’re going to need to do something about it!
Marriages work
Any marriage can work if both partners really want it to. It does however take effort from both sides to make it work well. If you’re really in love, this effort is in fact no effort at all. It is only when you feel that the spark from your relationship has gone, that there is no passion…no connection…that’s when marriage feels like hard work. So what should you do? Seeking marriage guidance is perhaps a wise move to make!
Marriage guidance is there to help people in married relationships move closer together again. It assists by making those obstructions that stand in the way of a happy relationship that bit easier to move.
So, what can you expect from a marriage guidance counsellor? In the first instance, the counsellor will encourage you to talk. He/she may do this with both you and your partner in the same room, or may elect to see you separately if it is felt that one partner can influence what the other partner will say by just being present in the room. It is important for the counsellor to build up a clear picture of the relationship in general, the internal and external influences on a relationship and a detailed log of how issues have arisen by receiving undiluted versions of the relationship from both partners. As ever, there are always two sides to a story!
Resolution
With an overview of your relationship situation in hand, your marriage guidance counsellor will begin his/her assessment. Normally over a two-hour session (or two one-hour sessions) the councilor will work with you and your partner to create a plan of action that you can both agree upon.
Scheduled weekly or bi-monthly visits to your marriage guidance councilor are recommended once the action plan is in motion. This will help you to keep things on track, and enable the councilor to ‘tweak’ the plan and make new recommendations in accordance with your feedback on each visit.
Marriage guidance works for a lot of couples all over the world. If you’re worried about your marriage then why take the risk of doing nothing? Seek help today!
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