Fix Marriage

Keeping a marriage on track can sometimes feel like a lot of hard work for little reward. All too often it seems that no matter how hard you try to avoid it, conflicts arise that drive a wedge between you and your partner, pushing you further apart and further down the road towards marriage breakdown. If this sounds like your relationship, then don’t despair. Here is the glue to fix your marriage back together again!

Fix Marriage Tip #1Communicate!

The root of most marital problems is communication, or to be more precise, the lack of it! When partners fail to tell each other what really is on their minds, or worse, stop communicating altogether, then there is little hope of resolving issues that arise in the course of a relationship. Forcing a line of communication open, no matter how painful it might seem, is the first step to fixing your marriage. But not only must you both talk, you must both also learn to LISTEN…and I mean REALLY LISTEN by focusing 100% on what your partner is saying WITH AN OPEN MIND and without an agenda! From communication flows feelings…real feelings. The truth should be laid out so both partners know exactly where they stand in the relationship. It will also help clear the air, so helping you to repair your marriage that much faster.

Fix Marriage Tip #2Rediscover Common Ground

Cast your mind back to the start of your relationship. What did you both enjoy doing together? Rediscovering common ground is important as these are the areas that you both cherish and agree upon in your relationship. You need to lay these out and use them as the foundation for your new & improved marriage. Make a plan to once again enjoy those things that first brought you together.

Fix Marriage Tip #3>Look for win-win solutions

Having found some common ground, it’s now time to turn your attention to the more thorny issues of your relationship. Negotiation and compromise are the key phrases here. If your partner wants something from you then negotiate with them to secure something that you want from the relationship in return. You can even solidify these win-win solutions into an informal written agreement!

Fix Marriage Tip #4Agree to Disagree

Okay, you’re probably not going reach agreement on every issue in your relationship…very few people do! For those issues where no win-win solution can be found then you should both agree to disagree. However, if it is a major stumbling block to the continuation of your marriage then you should set a goal to resolve the situation by other means. For instance, you could both set a goal to visit a marriage counsellor in an effort to resolve the conflict.

Fix Marriage Tip #5Make Time to Make it Work

No matter what your plans and goals, they will mean absolutely nothing unless you take ACTION! Make sure that you both spend at least 30 minutes every day working on getting your relationship back on track.

 

 

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